BLOGG # 100--PARIS VIGNETTES --THE METRO

On our third day in Paris we planned to do the highlight of the trip -which is to visit the Eiffel tower. I have been to Paris several times and have never felt the need to see this weird folly of an erection but was willing to give it a try.Certainly the family was eager to go and the eldest knowledgeable grandson and expert in French,metro systems and map deciphering, had mapped out our trip on the metro. The Paris Metro is complex,many layered constructed over many years and ranging from old lurching trains to fast bullet-like ones-but the one thing they all have in common is that they are not "physical challenged person -with cane -friendly." One had to walk endless corridors ,up and down endless steps,there were few working escalators and only two elevators in the system. The first one we entered in our district of Marais was old ,very crowded and it lurched. As soon as I entered blunderingly, a handsome elegant black and serious Parisian in a beautifully tailored grey suit-Armani?? offered me his seat-a precarious pop up stool on which I perched hanging on to the pole for dear life. My family stood packed sardine -like with the other commuters. As we reached our stop, My tall skinny sixteen year old bent backwards over the crowd and snaked his hand quietly through the crowd towards me. I grasped it gratefully and with relief. As he pulled me up I happened to glance up and meet this elegant man's eye. He nodded his head once approvingly and gave me the tiniest smile and I smiled back-I, proud of my thoughtful grandson,he, acknowledging my pride and appreciative of this charming act. Am I over-imaginative? I don't think so. All I know is that I left that crowded train with an uplifted heart and a warm feeling because of this spontaneous communication with a stranger. The next train was a bullet-I sort of shot into it. It was full of course and a very elegant Parisian woman immediately got up, I stumbled and she and a frail man holding a big parcel caught me. I sat down covering my face in confusion hardly able to thank them-How I hate being dependent. My family stood clustered in the entrance. At one point someone got up and offered my daughter a seat but she refused and indicated to the woman who gave me hers to take it. She also refused and indicated to my daughter to take it so she reluctantly did. I watched my daughter as she sat there chatting with her husband -she was glowing and why not? Here she was at last with her family in Paris on the metro going to the Eiffel tower. She looked beautiful and very appropriate in her black and white striped simple frock and with her abundant hair pulled back in a loose French braid-very French I thought. As the elegant woman got off at her stop she bent over my daughter and wished her and her family a wonderful Paris holiday. My daughter beamed her thanks and I thought "How often does an elegant busy Parisieane stoop to wish a tourist a good holiday?" And I left that train with a warm feeling too. The Eiffel tower was astoundingly impressive and surprisingly beautiful. I promptly secured a seat on a bench and set out to observe the crowd. Every member of this world was represented, there was a celebratory gaiety obviously caused by this towering edifice which more than justified the expense of building it-the world needs this. Everyone was busy photographing each other or "selfing" themselves with the tower in the background. None of our party left terra firma to climb due to the snake like lines.I enjoyed reading the notices-"BEWARE OF PICKPOCKETS" IGNORE STREET HAWKERS" they were all over the place amusing us. We decided to go back home another route through the adjoining park. We landed in a very exclusive residential district with shady trees-it was very hot-It was all lovely but our knowledgeable guide got us hopelessly lost.His smart phone was useless. I was asked to produce my map-I told them tartly I had left it behind as I couldn't stand their jeering every time I took it out.So we wondered aimlessly around very much like Moses and his tribes in the desert getting occasional glimpses of the tower through the trees.At last the scene changed and some aspects of commerce appeared and a sidewalk cafe like an oasis appeared in the shimmering horizon.It was very hot. We collapsed gratefully into comfortable chairs. It was a touristy cafe-the first one we encountered.The menu amused me. It featured hot dogs hamburgers,club sandwich and boeuf bourguignon. I had that and red wine, the others had hamburgers -no one dared order a hot dog-and my son-in-law had a beer named 1664- Hmmm.Our friendly waiter gave us directions to the nearest Metro which we were grateful for. We were now seasoned Metro commuters and our trip home was uneventful.

BLOGG #99 PARIS VIGNETTES

My family consisting of my daughter, my son-in law and two teenage grandsons finally managed a longed for trip to Paris and ,of course, I have collected some vignettes of our experience to share on my blogg. This is about our experiences with French food on our first day. We arrived at the airport on July 13 at 8am and were driven into Paris via limousine to the apartment we had rented. As soon as we dumped our luggage we went out to experience French food. As it was Bastille day the streets were empty and most shops and cafes were closed. Obviously the Parisians do not celebrate this important event with fireworks and noisy demonstrations-they all seem to go out of town for the weekend. We did finally find a Tabac with sidewalk table and chairs. It featured a big sign selling Amstel beer. My son in law's eyes lit up for this is his favourite European beer-He greeted the waiter with enthusiasm "Bon-jor" he said " an Amstel beera please" The cheerful waiter produced one in seconds then busied himself seating us at the tiny tables and waited for our orders. My daughter and grandsons ordered Espresso but not I. For my first experience I wanted wine-white wine-it was very hot out. "Mom you can't have wine " said my cautious daughter "it is only 9.30 in the morning!" "Of course she can" said our friendly waiter and turning to me he said "Madam you can order anything you want -you can drink wine any hour of the day here." So I ordered my cold delicious glass of white wine and discovered to my chagrin I could not pronounce "vien" correctly even with instructions from my oldest grandson -our expert in French. With the assistance of this remarkable waiter we plowed through the french menu. This was all followed with amusement by the only other occupants-the local early morning coffee regulars -four exuberant women of a certain age with brightly dyed hair who shouted helpful suggestions.The most excitable one waved her arms and laughed and shouted she was sorry not to be able to help us as she only spoke French and Yiddish. We were in a area long inhabited by the Jewish population. My daughter smiled and said she was sorry too but could only speak English and Grec. The atmosphere was quite celebratory and friendly and noisy. Our orders came finally and we discovered we all had managed in our ignorance to order the same thing- bagettes with ham and cheese but we agreed they were the best bagettes, ham and cheese we had ever eaten. As we left the Tabac the friendly women shouted their goodbys and announced they thought we were very cute. At least that is what we thought they said. French people are so friendly. That same evening we decided to have a really good French meal and set out to find it.We walked a great distance in one direction until we bumped into a small squadron of police with protective gear and promptly reversed our direction. Eventually we found the perfect restaurant with the help of a very friendly gay couple-we are in a well known gay community -hence the abundance of lively good cafes. Unfortunately the sidewalk tables were full of the returning French post Bastille day so we went inside where there was one other family-a young couple, a new baby and a proud grandma. Again we received an extensive menu in French. Our French expert pulled out his smart phone to access a French dictionary and we spent a long time arguing and choosing. The waitress.after tactfully leaving us alone, finally came by and asked if we were ready. My youngest grandson said confidently "Oui" and rattled out his order in French. There was a stunned and impressive silence from the rest of us and then the waitress spoiled it all by saying "Pardon??" "Oh well" he said pointing to the menu "I chose this item as I thought I could pronounce it"! Ha! We gave our orders and waited in anticipation. It reminded me of Christmas when you don't know what you are getting. The orders came-We found we had ordered a wonderful vegetable tart-oven baked eggplant and peppers in a thin crust-a shredded raw salad with medallions of sesame chicken on top.and a succulent pork chop with juilienne veggies which we shared asking for small plates. My grandson's unpronounceable order was duck baked with figs-a very sophisticated dish which he wouldn't share. When we got up to leave I smiled at the proud Papa and family next to us, commented on the beautiful baby and asked how old it was -in very bad English French. He thanked me in perfect English and proudly said the baby was ten days old and this was his first excursion in this world. We all nodded and smiled at each other understandingly at the importance of this event and said goodnight.The French are so friendly -to say nothing of their tolerance of the hashing of their beautiful language. This was the best meal we had the entire trip. The last comment is that our favourite time was breakfast when it was the duty of the earliest riser to go to the Boulanger across the street and select our breakfast baked goods -incredible croissants etc and of course baggettes.

BLOGG # 97-- HOT LAZY SUMMER AFTERNOONS AND BIRDS OF PREY

As all Victorians know,and indeed all Canadians jealously know,we are having the most incredible spring and summer ever.Personally,I have been in a state of enchantment for the past three months. As I go about my daily chores I am astounded. Never have I seen flowers blooming so shamelessly brilliantly,never have I seen the new and brightest green leaves dance with such joy and never have I seen the Victorian sky so blue.It has been a veritable moveable feast of delights and I have taken every opportunity to enjoy it. Last weekend was particularly wonderful and is what I want to write about. I spent the night at my daughter's place which has a wonderful view of Mt Baker and overlooking the sound .I woke up at 2am and spent some time watching the moon and it's reflection on the water. It was three quarters full and a deep golden orange and so lovely I thought I had been transported during my sleep to a Greek island and wistfully looked for the lights of the chre chre- the chain of little fishing boats that fish all night. I felt enchanted and nostalgic. This enchantment lasted throughout the day which I spent reading on the terrace and looking at the view. Mt Baker was so vivid that day-the sea so blue. Sometimes I read and sometimes I contemplated the view and marveled at the wonders of being alive. The cat, Jimmy, black as night was my companion. He had just survived death in a ferocious night battle a few days ago-costing the family 500.00 in cash to the vet and he had lots of contemplating to do on the wonders of living too thinking about survival in the jungle of life- and speaking of life and survival, I also spent a fair amount of time watching a hawk circulating the cliff and sweeping close by me. I could almost feel the wind from his wings as he skimmed the earth, brushing the grass with his wings as he swooped towards me-hunting of course the baby quail that hide in the bushes before the steep cliff near the terrace. There is something so moving about being allowed to be a close up observer of a predator in his maneuvers as he scans the earth-a privilege to watch these noble birds and their clear intentions and focus. Predators and birds of prey have a bad rap of course in our quest for a world with no violence {except our own] but the truth is we need these wonderful creatures to maintain the balance of nature and nature in her wisdom has made these creatures always beautiful, graceful and mysterious. Certainly Jimmy the cat in spite of missing a hip and one pupil still manages to look more graceful than any ballet dancer as he stalks the unfortunate baby rabbit-I know ,I know, disgraceful isn't it- but Jimmy is a predator pure and simple and does not care about our romantic notions of nature. I am in conflict of course -I feel for the bunny but can't help admiring the stalker. I also have the same conflict when watching nature shows on African predators. But the fascination persists. And now I can really go out on a limb and confess I also admire the two legged predators on Kitsilano beach in Vancouver on a hot summer day and even better, on an Italian beach. So I have to sum up this blogg with the confession I am completely in thrall of a seductive hot sunny summer afternoon and equally of a smooth graceful predator. As you can see I really enjoy the dangers of a seductive life and appreciate it in all it's aspects and advise you to do the same.

BLOGG #93 TODAY I BOUGHT A RING!

I do not wear rings -I don't even like them and haven't worn one since I lost my wedding ring in 1975, but today I bought one. I was coming home on the ferry from Vancouver after attending an art show and was ,as always, in my favourite place- the Gift Shop- buying yet another fashion magazine and saw next to the cashier a display of bright rather gaudy rings with lovely plastic stones looking all the world like Bulgari rings as worn by Kate Moss in advertisements. They were designed by a local artist, were $29.95 each, and were adjustable.I felt a bolt of desire going through me and knew I had to buy one. The decision to choose the right one was very intense and I enlisted the cashier to help me which she did enthusiastically. I chose a muted blush stone with black markings the cashier adjusted it to my finger size and I was pleased. As I sat on a stool by the window looking out at the lovely scenery of Active Pass going by, I pondered on why this impulsive purchase was so necessary and why the desire was so strong. I remembered my beloved niece telling me a short time ago that she loved fine jewellery especially diamonds and finally realized she would have to wait forever to get one from someone else so decided the one to buy her diamonds was herself and she did look lovely with her delicate pendant and earrings. Perhaps this was my motivation and this was a symbolic act which I need to fathom. For the past few months I have been meditating on the passage of time and it's importance in my life right now, for I am a few months away from the most pivotal, pinnacled birthday of my life-the great 80th! There are several pivotal ones;the 16th -"never been kissed" -the dreaded 30th-on the eve of which we turn into a dull rigid adult and leave youth forever- the 40th- a wonderful one where "life is just beginning" and very true for me and the mind jolting 50th when one realizes we have been on this planet half a century and it is "down hill" from now on. The 60's and 70's of course prove this all wrong and we just live happily if we are lucky, but the 80th is the big one. Here we know that we have reached the end of the feeling that life stretches on forever and we can count the possible years left to us. Anything after 80 is a gift. Mind you, from the day we were born each day was a gift but we never realize it. Now we have to and I have been very aware of the brief remainder of my life and have been pondering how I was going to choose to live these precious gift days. I have been slowly coming to the decision that I must live every moment now just doing what pleases me most-daring thought- and above all be true to myself [actually this should be ingrained in us at birth] and that I must be always committed to myself to do just that if at all possible. Ahhhh! The big C !! Of course that is what this ring is all about! It is my engagement ring. I have never had one. When I was young I was too independent and enlightened and did not want to be part of that "enslaving diamond engagement ring" custom. Also I was never asked - that is another point. However this time I am engaged to me and I take this engagement seriously.The time allotted to me after 8o will be mine to be used very mindfully by me. And I ask you dear readers to run out and get a ring to commit to yourselves too-It is the most meaningful relationship commitment of your life.

BLOGG # 93 JAZZ AND A LONELY HEART or- LAURIE GETS HER GROOVE BACK!

I am ,as my readers know, one of the new breed of emancipated single women who are living a very meaningful and fulfilled life-ha! It is true that my life is leagues away from my compatriot of the nineteenth century, for after all, my life in many ways resembles the life of a single male of my age.- weellll --much better actually- when I honestly compare it. After all here I am going to the theater and Cinema and Opera on my own and feeling very comfortable about it. Don't I with panache enter alone into my favourite trendy oyster bar and enjoy a dozen or so with a glass of chilled white wine? Yes indeed my life is full and yet there is one area of it that is not fulfilled. What is unfulfilled is the Nightlife which is reserved only for single men and "coupledom"- my word for a life ruled by couples. I have not been into a bar featuring jazz in years because I have not felt emancipated enough to do so on my own. I know, I know, cowardly of me dear readers and sorry to disillusion you on that point of weakness on my part but I could not summon up the courage to do so --yet. Last Friday evening however I went, as I usually do on Friday evenings, to my local community center to exercise in the pool. Now this community center boasts, of all things, a sports bar complete with liquor license and I have always promised myself to stop after swimming and enjoy a meal and a glass of wine. This Friday the Bar featured a jazz combo and I decided to go. I did not go home and put on glad rags. No! I went with my casual sporty outfit, paid my entrance fee and ordered a curry dinner and a half litre of Shiraz- I was hungry and thirsty- then I sat back to enjoy myself for the next three hours. So there I was sitting at a table by myself, thank goodness ,with my half litre of red and as I lounged back in my chair at the table surrounded by three empty chairs, enjoying the buzz of wine and jazz and aloneness -no personalities to deal with-no conversations to listen to- I found myself again. "This is Laurie" I said "Me -alone with half litre of wine and jazz -this is who I am! At last I have my groove back!" Why have I denied myself this experience? I have wanted for years to listen to jazz in a jazz club and I suppose I was waiting for someone to accompany me. No more - I am planning to branch out to experience more of jazz and life and I advise you to do the same,for as we all know, life is short and it is our duty to make it as broad as we can.

BLOGG # 92 FALLING IN LOVE AGAIN !

As my many readers know who have read the bloggs I wrote while I was in Spain, I am a woman with an inconstant heart-falling in love over and over again with, for example, the cities of Barcelona, Bilboa and of course Madrid.Really, I spent the whole time in Spain "in love" Now I am in that state again and the object of my affections is Reginald. Let me tell you about it.For some time now I have been looking with great concern at my inability to keep up with my ADL- the professional term for "activities of daily living" which, when translated, means the inability to cope with domesticity and I was seriously thinking of hiring a cleaning woman. I am a realist and know this will eventually come about but not just yet. My finances aren't brilliant and I still feel the need to have such things as my red wine , the occasional oyster and the indulgence of buying a lovely scarf. Really a cleaning woman was not an option. So I spent my days sitting in my recliner contemplating this new problem of mine while watching the dust balls accumulate under my feet.However, even I have -though minimal-cleanliness standards, and finally got out the vacuum cleaner and started it up. It immediately regurgitated it's contents on my carpet. I did the only thing one can do in such a situation and went to bed and pulled the covers over my head. When I woke up I had this wonderful idea. I will buy a vacuum robot known as a ruomba and that is just what I did. I immediately called my grandson to help me set it up. Now I will give out some of my accumulated knowledge of life. Men love vacuum cleaners and also cleaning surfaces so if you are concerned with your significant others' low spirits give him either a vacuum cleaner to tinker with or a cloth and a flat surface to wipe- believe me this is good advice. My grandson was delighted and came over and happily programmed the robot and yes, we named him Reginald-Reggy for short. Every day from Monday thru Friday at twelve noon he would clean for one hour. We gave him the weekend off. Together we watched this amazing machine -a true Trojan warrior -as it worked it's way around the apartment going it's way over and under furniture sucking up everything in it's way.Nothing stopped it though occasionally it got stuck and had to be rescued.It just never gave up until it got around all obstacles in order to clean and I was pleased. I too had worked my way around obstacles- the obstacles of domesticity. I sat in my recliner drinking a glass of red and watched my carpet being cleaned and was content. My advice to you dear readers is to do the same-never let the obstacles of life get you down but take Reginald as an example and work your way around them and NEVER GIVE UP.

BLOGG # 91 "ARE YOU A UNICORN?"

Yesterday evening I went to my local swimming pool between 6pm and 7pm for my routine exercises followed by a sauna. I love going on Sunday evenings as the pool is always empty. After a nice swim I walked into the sauna and right into a discussion and heard "I have a five O'clock shadow and need to shave every five hours or so." There were groans and nods around the room. I saw there were five men in the sauna and all involved in this lively discussion -I was the only female and as is the usual habit when in such circumstances,I kept a low profile in a corner. The man who made the comment continued saying it was a bother of course but it was the only thing she asked him to do and she was worth it. All the other men agreed "Women are always worth it". The lively discussion continued but I didn't follow as I was too intent on my own thoughts until I heard the word "Unicorn". I was amused and showed it. The man sitting next to me asked if I minded this frank discussion and I assured him I did not but was fascinated as I thought only women had these discussions about the opposite sex. I was assured otherwise and was included in the discussion and was asked for an occasional opinion. They were talking about this graph they had read about which measured female desirability. The graph measurements dealt with the level of "Craziness and hotness of the female sex. The most exciting woman, they agreed , was crazy- crazy and hot- hot and was at the top of the scale -but,unfortunately, these women were difficult though exciting.The talk continued to "Less Crazy and hot" etc and downward -I turned off at this point until I heard the word "Unicorn" again. "What" said a man not in the know "is a Unicorn?" Another man said "They don't exist" But the man who was explaining it all said "The Unicorn is a woman who rates zero on the Crazy" scale and ten on the "Hot Hot" scale [only men could devise this] but they don't exist of course except that he had found one!" he was obviously in love]-"and she was a keeper." I did have to laugh at this point.The discussion then turned to the main differences between men and women-really a lecture for my benefit [they kept asking me if I agreed-of course I said yes -one hates to hurt their feelings] Most of them had obviously read "Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus" and agreed these books should be compulsive reading for young males. The basics ,said one man earnestly to me, are that men need to be needed. "Ahh"I said,"That is why my friend traveled so far to fix my plumbing?" "Of course" they all said in unison. Women on the other hand need to be "validated" and they were very firm about that-I agreed. Next they discussed the need of men to go into "the Cave" when perturbed and the need of women to go deep into "their well." It was very important that women did not accompany men into the cave and very vital to not pull the women out of their well until they reached up their arms to be pulled out .Well, dear readers,never have I been so entertained in a sauna or learned so much! I left early , thanked them, and said I had to go home and recuperate with a glass of my favourite red. But the question remained. Was I a Unicorn? and my dear female readers -Are you?